Love is More Than Just a Pretty Face (or a Fat Bank Account)

We've all heard it: "Marry someone who can take care of you." And while financial stability is definitely nice, is that really the only thing that matters?

Nope.

Turns out, finding someone who shares your values might be even more important.

Think about it. You and your partner are basically a team. You're gonna face challenges together, celebrate victories together, and hopefully grow old together (cue sappy love song).

So, what makes a good teammate?

1. Shared Goals: Do you both dream of a big family? Or maybe you both crave adventure and want to travel the world? When you're rowing in the same direction, life feels a whole lot easier.
2. Similar Values: Do you both believe in honesty and respect? Do you prioritize family? Do you think kindness matters? These shared values act like a strong foundation for your relationship.
3. Complementary Strengths: Maybe you're the creative one and they're the practical one. Or maybe you're the planner and they're the spontaneous one. These differences can actually make you stronger as a team.

But, finding someone who perfectly aligns with you on every single issue is unrealistic.

Life throws curveballs. You'll have disagreements. You'll learn and grow together.

The key is to find someone who shares your core values and who you can have open and honest conversations with. Someone who challenges you to be a better person and who makes you feel seen and heard.

So, the next time you're looking for love, don't just focus on the paycheck. Look for someone who makes your heart sing and who shares your vision for the future. Or else, don't get married at all. There's a saying, "Kalau takut dilambung ombak, jangan berumah di tepi pantai,"

For me, I simply want someone family-oriented. I envision us raising our children together, providing them with a loving and supportive environment. I want a partner who will nurture and guide them to become good people, better than us. I want someone who can lead and educate me, teaching me new things.

I don't want unnecessary drama, unrelsoved inner child probs or the responsibility of raising another "mama's boy." My plate is already full. While children certainly benefit from a father figure, I know I can fulfill that role if needed.

After all, I've been solely responsible for providing for kiddos for the past 12 years, and I can confidently say I can continue doing so for another 12 years. No expectations mean no added stress, yes?

This is just my opinion. Who know what the future will bring? Love is messy and unpredictable. Do what feels right for you, it'll make all the difference. The choices you make today will shape your future. (So think wisely, especially if you are a woman)❤️

P.S. What values are most important to you in a partner?